Train up a child in the way he should go, and when he is old, he will not depart from it.” ~ {Proverbs 22:6}


We have four children. Three of our children are adults, ages 33, 27 and 25. Then there’s the “little guy,” who is our “anchor leg” baby, at age 11. One girl. Three boys. All wonderful. We’ve been at this parenting gig for nearly 40 years. And we are not experts at it yet.

When I am with young parents, I giggle inside when they say, “I can’t wait until he’s old enough to {fill in the blank here}. It will be so much easier then.”

Yes, some things get easier as your kids get older. It’s nice when you can say, “Get your shoes on and get in the car,” and not only CAN they do it, but the DO do it. That is nice. And I am glad that my pre-adolescent is big enough and strong enough to shovel, lift heavy things and push a lawn mower (because I am not that big, nor that strong). But for every thing that a child grows up to be able to do, there’s a new thing that needs to be learned. And the things to be learned get harder as we all get older.

For awhile, we, as parents, can keep up with the new learning. We rally our patience (and our backs) to push that bike up and down the street until the little fellow learns the just-right proportions of speed and balance to be able to two-wheel into training-wheel freedom. We steel our nerves for the first (and second, and third…) driver’s tests. We remember (and cringe at) our own freshman antics in college, as we send a child away to school for the first time. We calm frazzled nerves, and grab a curling iron, when a daughter’s hair won’t cooperate before the big dance.

Then comes adulthood. We can’t keep up with adult problems, because we’re still trying to figure them out, ourselves. And, while skinned knees and getting cut from the baseball team hurt for awhile, children are resilient, and they bounce back from most childhood troubles, with time and consoling. Adult hurts run deep, and we are often at a loss to offer comfort for the lost job, lost love or lost friendship. Parenting hurts at this time, for us, as well.

King Solomon, in his wisdom, had it right. Through the leading of the Holy Spirit, he reminded us, as parents and people of God, that it is important to establish values and positive character traits in our children when they are young, when life is comparatively simple and peaceful. Then, while they might wander, like the prodigal son, or when they find themselves in one of life’s many valleys, they know how to go to the Light, and how to get back home again.

I found this wonderful video in my Facebook feed the other day. When I shared it on my own wall, I commented, “I love his parents.” You can tell that this little one has been raised well. I can’t wait to see the kind of man he grows up to be. Let’s pray he remembers how to follow the Light.
How to shut a hater down… nicely. {Video by Eman Musik, 2014}

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What have been the most important life lessons you have taught your children? Leave a comment below.