A Bible Study in Proper Balance

Do you ever have a pensive moment?

Not the “hmm… I wonder what I’ll have for Sunday dinner?” kind of pensive. But the “Who am I? Why am I here?” kind?

That’s where I have found myself this month.

I have a great business, a supportive, handsome husband, and terrific kids. I really don’t feel I lack for any material thing. But I’ve felt scattered, spread to thin, and irritable. So I know there’s an imbalance, somewhere.

What did I do?

I went to my “instruction manual” to find out how things are supposed to work, and what parts need to be “tuned up.” Yes, Paul was right when he said, “All Scripture is God-breathed and is useful for teaching, rebuking, correcting and training in righteousness, so that the servant of God may be thoroughly equipped for every good work” (2 Tim 3:16-17).

I thought that Proverbs 31 was a great place to start, since that is where Bathsheba coaches her son, Solomon on how to be a great leader and what to look for in a help-meet.

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My Bible Study of…
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“The sayings of King Lemuel–an oracle his mother taught him:  ‘O my son, O son of my womb, O son of my vows, do not spend your strength on women, your vigor on those who ruin kings. It is not for kings, O Lemuel– not for kings to drink wine, not for rulers to crave beer, lest they drink and forget what the law decrees, and deprive all the oppressed of their rights. Give beer to those who are perishing, wine to those who are in anguish; let them drink and forget their poverty and remember their misery no more. Speak up for those who cannot speak for themselves, for the rights of all who are destitute. Speak up and judge fairly; defend the rights of the poor and needy.’”


“’A wife of noble character – who can find her? She is worth far more than rubies. Her husband has full confidence in her and lacks nothing of value. She brings him good, not harm, all the days of her life. She selects wool and flax and works with eager hands. She is like the merchant ships, bringing her food from afar. She gets up while it is still dark; she provides food for her family and portions for her servant girls. She considers a field and buys it; out of her earnings she plants a vineyard. She sets about her work vigorously; her arms are strong for her tasks. She sees that her trading is profitable, and her lamp does not go out at night. In her hand she holds the distaff and grasps the spindle with her fingers. She opens her arms to the poor and extends her hands to the needy. When it snows, she has no fear for her household; for all of them are clothed in scarlet. She makes coverings for her bed; she is clothed in fine linen and purple. Her husband is respected at the city gate, where he takes his seat among the elders of the land. She makes linen garments and sells them, and supplies the merchants with sashes. She is clothed with strength and dignity; she can laugh at the days to come. She speaks with wisdom, and faithful instruction is on her tongue. She watches over the affairs of her household and does not eat the bread of idleness. Her children arise and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her: Many women do noble things, but you surpass them all. Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the LORD is to be praised. Give her the reward she has earned, and let her works bring her praise at the city gate.’”

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The Purpose(s) for Studying This Bible Passage:

As I read this passage, I see three distinct “messages” within:

  1. Mothers – this is how you instruct your sons.
  2. Young Men – this is how you become leaders.
  3. Women – this is how you become godly wives.

As I study this scripture line by line, I am going to keep all three of these points in mind. I want to share my study with you, not as a bible scholar (although I do my best to research things that I study), but as a fellow learner trying to “rightly divide the Word of God” (2 Tim 2:15).

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Two of my three wonderful sons, Malik and Evan. (c) Kim M. Bennett, 2013.

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